Boundaries in Ethical Non-Monogamy: Creating Safety, Not Distance
In ethical non-monogamy (ENM), boundaries are not about controlling others—they’re about protecting your own emotional wellbeing and creating trust within your relationships.
At our North Sydney therapy practice, we work with ENM individuals and partners to define, express, and honour boundaries in ways that feel respectful and empowering.
Why Boundaries Matter in ENM
In ENM, it’s common to:
Navigate multiple needs and relationship styles
Balance freedom with emotional responsibility
Unpack inherited beliefs about loyalty and exclusivity
Without clear boundaries, people can begin to feel unsafe, unseen, or overwhelmed. Therapy supports you to bring clarity and intentionality to your relational agreements.
Common Boundary Challenges
Feeling guilt about expressing limits
Resentment building from unspoken needs
Struggling with over-functioning or people-pleasing
Confusion around rules vs boundaries vs agreements
We help you identify where your boundaries come from, how they serve you, and how to communicate them with care.
What Healthy Boundaries Look Like
Naming your needs without demanding others change
Letting go of the need to explain or justify every limit
Co-creating agreements that honour each person’s autonomy
Holding compassion when boundaries bring up fear or grief
In couples or group relationships, we explore:
Differentiating shared and individual boundaries
Navigating new or evolving agreements
Repairing ruptures that come from boundary misattunement
North Sydney ENM Therapy for Boundaries
If you're exploring ENM and want to create safety without losing connection, therapy can help you learn to honour your needs while staying in relationship.
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We offer in-person and online ENM therapy for individuals and couples navigating non-monogamy.
