Compersion: Learning the Language of Joy in Polyamory
Compersion — the feeling of joy in your partner’s joy with someone else — is often described as the opposite of jealousy. For some, it feels natural. For others, it seems impossible. In North Sydney and North Shore couples therapy, compersion is often explored not as a requirement, but as a practice that can grow over time.
What Compersion Really Is
Compersion isn’t about suppressing discomfort or forcing yourself to feel “happy” when you’re not. It’s about cultivating enough security in your relationship and in yourself that your partner’s joy doesn’t feel like a threat.
At its heart, compersion comes from abundance: the belief that love multiplies rather than divides.
How Therapy Supports Compersion
For many people, compersion doesn’t appear automatically. Therapy helps couples and polycules:
Name and validate fear before trying to shift into joy.
Explore attachment patterns that influence how safe it feels to share.
Practice nervous system regulation so the body can stay calm enough to access more generous feelings.
When compersion is present, it often feels like a surprising lightness — a reminder that your partner’s happiness can coexist with your own.
Couples Therapy for Alternative Relationships in North Sydney and North Shore
At The Embodied Mind Collective, we support clients in exploring both jealousy and compersion without judgment. Our couples therapy space in North Sydney offers a grounded, compassionate container for those in alternative relationships.
🌿 Learn more about how we can support you at www.theembodiedmind.com.au
