Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): Strengthening the Bonds That Hold You Together

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is one of the most well-researched and effective therapies for couples who feel stuck, disconnected, or caught in recurring conflict. Based on attachment theory, EFT helps partners move from cycles of blame or withdrawal into a secure emotional bond.

At our North Sydney therapy space, we use EFT with both individuals and couples to support emotional safety, deeper intimacy, and lasting relational repair.

What Is EFT?

EFT focuses on identifying and transforming the emotional patterns that create distance in relationships. It helps couples:

  • Recognise their negative interaction cycles

  • Understand the emotional needs and fears beneath conflict

  • Learn how to express vulnerability instead of defensiveness

  • Rebuild trust through responsive connection

For individuals, EFT can also illuminate how attachment wounds shape your relationship with yourself and others.

Why EFT Works

EFT isn’t about communication skills alone—it goes deeper, addressing emotional safety and bonding needs. When couples feel emotionally safe, they naturally communicate with more openness, kindness, and clarity.

EFT is effective for:

  • Chronic conflict or emotional distance

  • Post-infidelity repair

  • Emotional withdrawal or shutdown

  • Heightened sensitivity or reactivity

EFT in Couples Therapy

In sessions, we support couples to:

  • Slow down reactive conversations

  • Identify where each partner gets emotionally stuck

  • Share needs and fears in a way that draws the other close

  • Build new cycles of connection that reinforce trust and love

The result isn’t just fewer arguments—it’s a stronger emotional foundation that holds you through life’s inevitable stressors.

North Sydney EFT Therapy

If you’re longing for more connection, closeness, or emotional repair in your relationship, EFT can help you find your way back to each other.

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We offer in-person and online EFT therapy for couples and individuals.

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