Where do I go when relationships get hard?
Twelve everyday moments. For each one, pick the reaction that's closest to your first gut response when you're stressed or hurt, not how you'd like to respond on your best day.
Everyone visits every corner of the grid sometimes. This isn't a diagnosis or a label. It's a way to notice where you tend to land first, so you can find your way back to the center.
Your answers stay on this device and aren't saved or shared.
ONE UP
ONE UP
ONE DOWN
ONE DOWN
How your answers spread
The center: health
- “I'm no better, and no less, than you.”
Health isn't a place you arrive at and stay. It's the move you make each time you notice you've drifted: back to valuing yourself and the other person at the same time, with a boundary that lets you stay connected without disappearing or taking over.
A reflection tool for workshop use, adapted from Terry Real's Relationship Grid. It isn't a clinical assessment.